“No” is a Complete Sentence
It’s a grey Seattle morning. I’m drinking coffee and reading “Detox Your Life” by my friend and colleague Rebecca Gould. I highly recommend you get it.
I can barely sit still because I am reading her section on saying “no.” I LOVE it!
As a child I learned that “no” was not an ok response. Around the age of 50, I decided to declare “my year of the bitch.” I told everyone to expect me to act more bitchy that year. In reality, I was just going to practice saying no, but that doesn’t have th…
How a Sentence Changed my Life & an awesome podcast!
I’m proud to share that I got a piece published in Thrive Global! Arianna Huffington’s new venture. I talk about a pretty dark period in my life, but it ends well. ♥
“It was a sunny fall afternoon in 1996. On this particular day I was sitting on my bed reading a self-help book.
And I was thinking of killing myself…” Read more at Thrive Global
Also, my interview on Lisa Zawrotny’s Positively Living Podcast is up! Lisa and I are kindred spirits. In it you will hear my story about how I made …
Want to make your New Year’s Resolution last more than a week?
Welcome to the season of goal setting and self-flagellation!
I stopped setting New Year goals years ago, because I always started off the year feeling like a failure. I am not alone.
Research has shown that less than 25% of people are still keeping their goals by the end of January. Worse, only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s goals.
Nevertheless, we are still driven to set big goals, create vision boards, buy gym shoes, and hope for huge changes–because of a day on the calendar.
Why Gratitude is so Powerful for your Brain
- Positive emotions fill our brain with dopamine and serotonin. These chemicals make us feel good and increase our ability to learn. They help us process new information, keep that information in the brain longer, and remember it faster later on.
- Feeling happy improves our ability to perform tasks and solve problems.
- We feel better when we think happy thoughts. People who are grat…
What to do With Intrusive Thoughts
Have you ever had thoughts that just keep repeating, and repeating…and repeating?
You try to stop them. You try to distract yourself, yet they just keep looping.
– Nope. Me neither. (Oh, how I wish that were true.)
If you are like most (read all) humans, you sometimes have thoughts that just won’t go away. It happened to me today, which is why I am sitting at my dining room table at 8 o’clock at night, writing this newsletter.
I got triggered and the story started. It is an old story, o…
In the Spotlight – My Clarity TV interview
- What to do with fear
- The super-secret power of imagination
- Affirmations that actually work!
- At the very end, a tool to help you be kinder to yourself
- Are you hard on yourself?
- Are you afraid of being judged by others?
When You Want to Forgive Yourself
I recently made a big mistake; I spammed over 5000 people. It was not one of my finest moments, but it was a mistake—I didn’t start out the day deciding I wanted to piss off a bunch of people I didn’t know.
When I realized what happened I didn’t respond perfectly (what a surprise.) I blamed myself. I blamed other people. I tried to find fault.
I realized my response wasn’t helping anyone, so I started using a tool I employ when I want to forgive myself and others. I will share it in a bit b…
The Stepladder Method to More Helpful Thoughts
I was reading a fabulous book by my friend and colleague Rucsandra Mitrea called You Don’t Have to Live in Pain: Five Strategies to Help Reduce Your Chronic Pain Right Now.
Her book offers practical tools to shift your thinking about chronic pain so you can help the healing process. Personally, I think it’s a good book to help shift any thinking that is getting in your way of making changes.
Her tool I’m sharing with you today is the Stepladder Method. It is a process to move from old, unh…
A Tool to Help Fear be Less Fearful
Let’s talk about everyone’s favorite topic—Fear.
More precisely, I want to give you a helpful tool to be with fear without it feeling overwhelming.
I was talking about the power of fear with a friend and colleague I was visiting recently, and she practically jumped up and down as she handed me Tim Ferriss’ book Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice From the Best in the World. She opened it up to Kristen Ulmer’s chapter on how to deal with fear.
Kristen Ulmer knows fear. She was the best woman e…