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saying no

Are You Overriding Your Needs? Let’s Change That

Are you used to overriding your needs—pushing yourself to the limit until exhaustion hits? If you’re like most women, the answer is probably yes.

We’ve been conditioned to put others first, to keep going no matter how tired we are, and to ignore the subtle (or not-so-subtle) signs that our bodies are begging us to slow down.

But what if you started asking yourself a simple question every day?

“What do I need right now?”
Or:

  • “What does my body want today?”

  • “What do I need in this moment?”

Even if you ca…

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Struggling to Say No? Let’s Change That (Free Event!)

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Have you ever said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no” – only to feel exhausted, frustrated, or resentful later? You’re not alone, and it doesn’t have to be this way.

I’m inviting you to join me for a FREE live workshop where I’ll show you exactly how to set boundaries with confidence and without guilt.

Stop Saying 'Yes' When You Mean 'No': Three Steps to Boundaries Without Guilt
When:
February 12, 2024, at 10 AM PST
Where: Zoom
Cost: FREE!

Reserve Your Spot Here

During this one-hour workshop, you…

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What If Saying “No” Felt Good?

Do you struggle with saying no because it creates guilt, fear, or the worry that someone will get mad, sad, or even angry? It’s no wonder saying no can feel so hard when it’s tangled up with those negative associations.

But what if saying no could feel good? What if it could even make you giggle?

I shared a simple exercise in this recent video that can help you start reshaping the way you feel about saying no. 

Here’s how it works:

One person asks a question—any question. It could be as silly as, “C…

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Why Does Saying No Make People Angry?

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Have you ever said no to someone and immediately worried about their reaction? Maybe you’ve thought, “They’ll get mad, and I don’t want to deal with that.” If so, I want to share something that might help you feel less anxious the next time you need to set a boundary.

When people get upset after hearing no, it’s not necessarily about you—it’s about their brain.

Here’s the deal: our brains love patterns and predictability. When we say no and change the rules, their brain has to adjust. Suddenly, th…

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