Love Notes


Human Emotions



Human emotions are powerful and often deeply connected to our personal experiences and memories. Our bodies hold onto our feelings until we are able to express them. Sometimes we can tap into physical sensations to notice stored feelings.

Do some conversations leave you feeling icky?
Do certain people make you feel like running away?
Do particular subjects make certain muscles tight?
Do you notice your jaw clamp shut or your leg shake when old arguments arise?

Our feelings often stay with us,…

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Seven Tips for How to Have a Fight


I just had what could have been a very painful conversation with a good friend of mine.  It could have been, but it wasn’t.  At one point she stopped and said, “This is going a LOT better than I expected.”  I wholeheartedly, and with no small amount of relief, agreed.
I was pondering why it went so well.

It was a superstar of a conversation because of these elements we both contributed to our discussion. Read below for 7 tips to effectively resolve conflict.

 1. Do your best to avoid saying “yo…

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Do You Love a Narcissist? Help is Here


If you love someone who has narcissist or borderline personality disorder, READ THIS BOOK.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life, by Margalis Fjelstad.
This book has helped change the lives of several of my clients, literally. The photo is of my own very well worn copy.

Common Feelings of a Caretaker

  • You are stressed much of the time
  • You live with two different people, one who is loving and attentive, and one who is…

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