Love Notes
mental health
When You Want to Forgive Yourself
I recently made a big mistake; I spammed over 5000 people. It was not one of my finest moments, but it was a mistake—I didn’t start out the day deciding I wanted to piss off a bunch of people I didn’t know.
When I realized what happened I didn’t respond perfectly (what a surprise.) I blamed myself. I blamed other people. I tried to find fault.
I realized my response wasn’t helping anyone, so I started using a tool I employ when I want to forgive myself and others. I will share it in a bit b…
The Stepladder Method to More Helpful Thoughts
I was reading a fabulous book by my friend and colleague Rucsandra Mitrea called You Don’t Have to Live in Pain: Five Strategies to Help Reduce Your Chronic Pain Right Now.
Her book offers practical tools to shift your thinking about chronic pain so you can help the healing process. Personally, I think it’s a good book to help shift any thinking that is getting in your way of making changes.
Her tool I’m sharing with you today is the Stepladder Method. It is a process to move from old, unh…
A Tool to Help Fear be Less Fearful
Let’s talk about everyone’s favorite topic—Fear.
More precisely, I want to give you a helpful tool to be with fear without it feeling overwhelming.
I was talking about the power of fear with a friend and colleague I was visiting recently, and she practically jumped up and down as she handed me Tim Ferriss’ book Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice From the Best in the World. She opened it up to Kristen Ulmer’s chapter on how to deal with fear.
Kristen Ulmer knows fear. She was the best woman e…